Toxic Friends with Benefits

There comes a time in every person’s life where they question how much is too much? That can be a question for an array of things; chocolate? sex? stuffed animals? For me, none of those are the reasoning behind my question. Lately, “how much is too much partying?” has become the theme of our lives.

It’s no secret that I like to party, and it’s said to be the same with my friends. The worst is when we are all together. It’s known that if we are all together, things are about to get crazy. Once, I tried not to drink while being out with my friends and I ended up blacking out that night. GOL! I give Jeff mad props for being able to hang out with people who are not sober. That takes a lot of will power.

The truth is I don’t party every day, but when I do, I go hard, as do my friends. Gabriella’s mom says we don’t have hollow legs, we have hollow bodies. The pattern usually goes as such; start off with a few drinks, move on to shots, more shots, a few more drinks, one beer, and lastly wine if we are desperate. Yes, once we start, we can’t stop.

Jenny recently claimed that we are toxic friends. This isn’t the first time I’ve heard this, but I accept it. Just so we are clear, we aren’t hurting one another. We are just enjoying each other more when we are drunk. To be honest, I don’t think anything is wrong with the way I party. I can’t speak on behalf of the other girls in my group, but for the most part I am cool with it. I think I am a fun time. There are the times when I do embarrassing things, wake up and face palm, but I do that when I am not drinking.

I mean we all had our fair share of ridiculously embarrassing stories. Let it be when we were 18 or 25, we’ve all experienced it. That being said, the next day is always the day where you think about your actions from the previous night and how if you didn’t drink that much, you wouldn’t have acted like a clown. The depression kicks in, and then you have one of two choices; you can replay every embarrassing moment in your head and think about your actions, or your can start drinking again. I used to have the “Sunday blues” and wondered why I do the things I did. But then I realized, I don’t really care what others think.

Truth be told, I haven’t done something severely embarrassing in a while. (That’s going to bite me in the buns.) But it is notoriously known that I like the bottle. The reason I don’t care is because 1. I am a college graduate who has a full-time job, 2. I have my own place and pay my own bills (sounds like a Destiny’s Child song), 3. I’m young enough to get away with it. These are my prime years. 4. My partying doesn’t stop me from striving for the best. I am trying to have big things happen in my life. The only thing my partying does effect is my love life, which is non existent. Let’s be serious, it’s very unlikely I am going to find my soul mate out at a bar where most people are bombed. Plus, I am looking for a man who is just as, if not more, ambitious and intelligent like me, which is a rare find these days.

This is for my clique: Don’t doubt yourself when you have the Sunday blues (or whichever day). Each of us, individually are established women who will one day rule the world while drinking dirty martinis. In our friends circle, we are ALL college graduates, we are ALL exceeding in our professional lives, we ALL support one another and most importantly, you are ALL friends with me and very soon I will be the best next thing after Beyonce! In the end, each of us benefit from one another and on top of that, we know how to have a great time! Geri’s mom said it best, “Your group of friends are very successful!” It’s the truth.

Introducing:: I have been working very hard on my upcoming fashion line. Previously, I explained that a lot of my time has been dedicated to my boutique, Icons Boutique. Within the boutique, I have added a hair jewelry line, Soliloquy Jewels. All of which are original and handmade. Below are a few pieces that are on the market. In a few weeks, the website will launch premiering both the clothes and hair jewelry. Till then, follow us on Instagram and Facebook! Any if you are interested in ordering, contact

On aside:: No secret I am obsessed with Gossip Girl. So much so, I think I am actually friends with them. I recently purchased all of the seasons and have been re-watching. I realized that their music selection was past my music intellect. Here is a song with Leighton Meester and Robin Thicke. It’s an oldie but a goodie.


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